Sarah Beilfuss

Chief Stigma Smasher

Hey, I am Sarah Beilfuss, co-founder of Scarlet Ladies and apparently the sensible half of the founding team (I am not so sure about that). So let me tell you a little about myself.

Originally I am from Germany. I grew up mainly in a teeny tiny village. I was a bit of a tomboy (apparently that’s what we call girls that like to climb trees – don’t get me started on gender expectation…) so as a teenager most of my friends were boys. Not understanding the nature of the bragging teenage boy, I was horrified by how they spoke of girls and was determined to never be one of “those girls”. Oh yes, welcome the “good girl complex” into my life. It was here to stay.

I got married at the tender age of 21, was not particularly experimental and so embarrassed of my orgasm that I never allowed myself to come. If it did happen by mistake, I’d hide my face behind a pillow so he would not see me. We separated when I was 28 and I finally started to explore a little. Those were the good days which ended way too soon when I headed to Libya to work on a project. Over the coming 3 years I had to endure a number of traumas, including sexual violence, and was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in 2012. I suffered a complete breakdown and was bedridden for a whole year and told I would never get better again. I had other ideas though and luckily I am a stubborn cow and don’t like being told what I can or cannot do. So I set my mind to getting my health back and competed in my first ever bodybuilding show in September 2016. What can I say – if I challenge myself I like to do it properly 😉

My experience with recovering from severe burnout and chronic fatigue has given me opportunities to talk about my story in the media, such as interviews on Radio Wandsworth’s Healthy Wandsworth show, articles in The Daily Mail, Mirror, Daily Record, IT Pro, Greatist and Huffington Post. Most notably my bodybuilding journey was covered in an interview on London Live TV and my most recent feature in Glamour Magazine. I am hoping to compete again and continue to dedicate my efforts to raise money and awareness for Rosa, UK charitable fund for women and girls, through my fundraising website and my hashtag #strongforgirls.

Meeting Jannette and founding Scarlet Ladies was one of the best things to ever happen to me. I wanted to encourage other women, but I doubt I would have been brave enough to put my story out there without Jannette. It is my aim to help women all around the world to feel sexually confident and strong, to speak up and to never give up.