Sonder & Beam

The new name for Scarlet Ladies

Sonder: the realisation that each passer-by has a life as vivid and complex as your own. Beam: a ray or shaft of light, or to transmit a message in a specified direction

We are a global community of sex-positive women and female-centric brands, working together to change the narrative around female sexuality and sexual experience and build a better world for women everywhere.

We use the power of straight-talking conversation to replace judgement, stigma and abuse with support, trust and friendship. 

Sonder & Beam makes a difference for women. £10 from every membership, every month, goes directly to charities and organisations empowering vulnerable women around the world.
New Events
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Inspired Fire Side

Join us and get intimate and cosy with our special guests. Each of our chosen guests wants to share their ideas, knowledge and experience with you. One of the team members will be diving deep into their journey and career within the sex positive industry.



Have a great idea but need the support? Have the motivation and want to support great ideas? Collab-Creator might just be the space for you. Talking sex changes lives, and we want to take that a step further, inviting you to develop those ideas and collaborate to advance all of our sexual wellbeing.


Share Your Self

Putting the spotlight on sexuality, relationships, body positivity, we welcome you, women, cis, trans and non-binary members to share and connect at this once a month Share Your Self. 3 guests per night will have 15 mins to recite a poem or perform spoken word, present a story or share an idea.

Plus Old Events


Speak, listen, debate and learn: our monthly sex-positive Scarlet Conversations tackle the tough topics and burning issues that affect every sexual woman in the world today. Each month, our Team Scarlet panel – the brilliant minds behind the Scarlet Ladies community – are joined by a special guest speaker to focus on a different topic and talk it out.


This is sex education like you never had it before: our straight-talking ‘How-To’ sessions take a head-on approach to all the questions you never dared ask at school! Expect eye-opening insights from London’s best sex educators: at our members-only workshops, you’ll discover a world of tips, tricks and skills guaranteed to transform your world in the bedroom (and beyond …)


We all know that it’s good to talk. But when it comes to sex and sexuality - especially when it comes to personal experiences, troubles or concerns - it can feel very difficult to find anyone to talk to. If you have something that you struggle to speak about yet need to address, then Scarlet Circle, our private, members-only women’s coaching sessions may be exactly what you need.


Off The Record

Relax, chill out, and be inspired in the company of your sisters. Discover new places and new sides to yourself that you had forgotten were there: find answers to the questions you never dared ask; push your boundaries or just have some fun: whatever happens off the record, stays off the record! Get ready to experience the best of sex-positive London with our group of likeminded explorers.


Why Us

Find the courage to invest in yourself, and you will help other women to do the same.

Our global community gives every woman, everywhere, a safe and supportive space to make connections, build friendships, grow in confidence and benefit from a unique personal and professional support network.

Joins to become part of something bigger: become the woman you were born to be.

More Perks

  • A full calender of events

  • Discount to partners and perks

  • Free Access to Share Your Self

  • Free Access to Off The Record

  • Feature in our Directory

  • Promote your events in our calender

  • Priority to speak at events

  • Priority to become an Off The Records Hostess in your city

New Memberships

2019 applications close November 15th 2019. Apply Now and save 50% off your 1st month.


Supportive Community of women

Discounted event tickets

Free access to Off The Records &  Share Your Self

Monthly £20 | Yearly 220

All Access

All Community membership benefits

Free entry to All Events

Exclusive Access to Collab-Creator and Circle

Monthly £50 | Yearly 550

Pro membership options available for female centric brands & businesses at no additional cost.

Join Us

Sonder & Beam is a unique community of sex-positive women and trusted female-centric brands. We host frank and honest conversations to better understand and embrace our bodies and our sexuality.