When you consider that the study of sex and sexuality is relatively in its infancy, it doesn’t come as a surprise that some of our understandings and narratives about sexual desire may feel a bit stuck. The researchers to break the mould were called Masters & Johnson who starting conducted pioneering research into sexual functioning in the late 1950’s hugely developing our understanding of human sexual responses.
So, when it comes to female sexual desire we are still developing a narrative that is considered and normalising, rather than one that makes women feel that there is something ‘faulty’ with them or wrong in how they function. Most importantly we are moving forward from this idea of sex drive just being that we are spontaneously and instantly turned on.
We describe desire as responsive. We know that it is multi layered, and not necessarily linear. It is a combination of physiology, psychology and emotion and shows that we need more than just our bodies saying yes to get turned on.
Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist Accredited by COSRT & Registered by UKCP